i won’t date a broke guy again

 i won’t date a broke guy again and i don’t mean that in a heartless or gold digger way i just mean i’m tired of pretending money doesn’t matter when it absolutely does in real life. i’ve done the whole “it’s fine he’ll figure it out” thing and all it really did was turn me into his financial planner emotional support system and part time sponsor. it’s not even about fancy dates or being spoiled it’s about effort and stability and not feeling like i have to shrink my expectations to protect someone else’s ego. broke isn’t a moral failure but staying broke with no plan no drive and no urgency is exhausting to be around. i don’t want to feel guilty for wanting to go out or travel or enjoy my life because someone else can’t keep up. i don’t want to hear excuses about why everything is impossible while i’m actively making things happen for myself. i’ve learned that love doesn’t pay bills and potential doesn’t mean much if it never turns into action. i don’t need a rich guy i just need someone who has motion. ambition. pride in their life. someone who doesn’t flinch when money comes up or act weird when the check arrives.